Thursday 28 February 2013

Relationship Pre-requisites: Love Or Sex...


Is it Love or Sex?
I wonder, why is sex treated like some sacred secret? Sex or sexual issues are treated with such reverence that you'd think no one indulges in the act. You see, this over-rating has been long gone that anyone who talks about sex openly could be seen as vulgar or profane. However, ironically so, whether sex is spoken about freely or not virtually every human indulges in the act, even youngsters.
Back to the bone of contention, relationships should be treated accordingly as they should if they are expected to last...
I'm not ruling out other reasons that result in short relationships, rather, I would shed more light on a theory that is often neglected in relationships.
As humans go through various growth stages, so is required of relationships. What more could be expected from humans relating together?
A relationship involves two humans who should be mutually committed and dedicated to nurture, learn, grow, and sacrifice together. This doesn't entail two people coming together and becoming "one" just like that!
However, what it does entail is that, after two humans have mutually agreed to be in a relationship, they would then begin not just a relationship but the growth stages that would ensure the relationship lasts.
As a fetus is being delivered, it weans, becomes a toddler, go through adolescence, the teenage stage, then adulthood, till zap; so relationships are meant to go through courtship: where most of the learning processes take place; then marriage.
During the courtship stage, the learning process is the most important just as a mother's breasts are most important to a weaning child. At this stage, if sex is made the most essential pre-requisite of growth, the development of the union would be stunted. At this point, I'm not ruling out sex before marriage, neither am I preaching abstinence, in fact I'll keep mute as regards my feelings towards the matter.
*More on this topic to come in the next post.*  











1 comment:

  1. Akagha Chinazam Justin5 March 2013 at 09:13

    The issue lingers. In a world torn between vogue and morality, between the previlege of freewill and the constraints of religion, its a delicate discourse. As characters differ, so do opinions. As much as having a stance may prove slightly difficult, i'm of the opinion that sex be considered ''numinous'' and a true relationship thrive devoid of it. You are doing a very good job, keep up the good work. I find your articles interesting as well as educating. Nice blog. Akagha Chinazam

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