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Blue Lace Agate: From a Sister to a Sister...

Blue Lace Agate: From a Sister to a Sister...: Lately, the heartbreak tale seems to be getting to me more than ever; I'm beginning to feel like there's something I should be doin...

From a Sister to a Sister...

Lately, the heartbreak tale seems to be getting to me more than ever; I'm beginning to feel like there's something I should be doing/have done which I am neglecting. You see, for the past couple of months, like a consistent train routine, I hear the heartbreak tale of a sister (fellow female) who has been/or is being heartbroken. From a friend, to a sister, to a cousin, to an older colleague, to aunts, to a mere acquaintance, sisters everywhere are being heartbroken and it is really disheartening of love!

Don't misconstrue my words; I am not against love. In fact, I hope to fall in love again(yeah! again: I've also been heartbroken) The heartbreak tale has so much gone on that it has made many sisters lose their self-esteem and confidence, some even go as far as thinking of themselves as losers.

As  there are some women/girls who do not make the womenfolk proud, I pray they are redeemed someday. There are virtuous women who are the true epitome of the womenfolk who have fallen victims. From the alluring, beautiful, sophisticated, sensational, lovely, graceful, poise, even the pious have all fallen victims of the sleek, smooth-talking men, with their sugar-coated tongues and honeyed pick up lines. However, I am not saying the sisters are always entirely without faults of their own (that is another talk for another day).

If I hadn't read the book: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man; by Steve Harvey, I might not be writing this post. Not because I wouldn't have anything to say, but whatever I would be saying would be too constricted to what we've heard in the past. However, with the enlightenment I got from reading the book it has opened my mind and I can see how many sisters have or could have fallen prey.

You see, whether you are beautiful or not, sexy or not, successful or not, courteous or not (and every excuse the brothers might have used to delude you or not) the bottom line of what the menfolk want from us sisters is true and still remains- to get between our legs, sex! Whether you will be married to or played with, it all borders on sex. The choice is now ours, the ball has now been passed to our courts as regards if we would prolong the brothers' quest, be a plaything or be happily married.

 

I know that at this junction, eyebrows might have swept up... I haven't forgotten about love.(You might be wondering about falling hopelessly in love like in the Disney movies and Mills and Boons novels, every woman who is worth her coin deserves that, but for once, could we leave our fantasies in the TV's and novels and come to the real world!)

Some even say love is blind, my take is: even if it(love) were blind, has it made you fall for a mad man down the road? Then it isn't blind enough! In the real world, if you want to be happy with your relationship, you need to shine your eyes well! Don't ever settle for the blindness of love.

I had a chat with a friend lately, in which he asked in like terms that why would women, knowing that they are not loved proceed in the relationship. I would say I couldn't argue convincingly, after which he made me understand that as women, our perceptive instincts are strong. Considering that, I can attest that truly our perceptive instincts are very strong and I think that is what develops our maternal instincts (makes a mother know when she's being lied to/when her child is hurt, and so on).

The point I am trying to make here is is your perceptive instincts are are strong as acclaimed, why wouldn't it be put to test in every facets of life, especially to pertinent life issues such as relationships.

In plain English: before you go on consenting to any relationship, put your brain to work. Don't allow the heart do all the judgement on which you will base your man, add common sense, investigate and above all pray about it!

As what isn't destined to be will not work no matter the effort, it will cause you less heartbreak to find out everything about your prospective relationship than after you have invested a whole lot.

My hope and prayer for every sister who has been heartbroken is that one day, very soon you shall find that man who is truly worth your tears, even then he wouldn't make you cry!

xoxo

Truly, from a Sister!

 

 A Gift from a Sister: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man; by Steve Harvey

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